Monday, June 3, 2013 Potty Training Boys - How To Potty Train Boys - Do You Teach Them to Sit or Stand?

I am asked this request by many parents - they all want to know either to start potty training boys to urinate standing up or sitting down.

While there is surely no right or wrong way to potty train a boy, most potty training experts will advise that toddler boys should be potty trained sitting down. Even the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends encouraging & teaching toddler boys to urinate sitting down.

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The major conjecture for this suggestion is to keep things uncomplicated by teaching them to sit for both urination and bowel movements. Other reasons include the logistics involved in managing the equipment for both types of training and the attempt required to clean up while they learn to aim properly.

Potty Training Boys - How To Potty Train Boys - Do You Teach Them to Sit or Stand?

Keep it uncomplicated and Bowel Movement Training: Most parents would agree that potty training your toddler son includes not only teaching him to urinate in a potty or toilet, but also to make bowel movements in the potty or toilet. And for bowel movement training, you will have to teach your toddler son to sit down on a potty or the toilet.

So, then if you decide to teach your son to pee standing up, you will have to teach him to have a bowel movement sitting down - that means teaching your son two separate things. This can get confusing for a toddler.

Let's take a look at the potty training process in detail from the child's perspective.

It starts with body awareness and the ability to associate a feeling of plentifulness with the need to eliminate and the consequent i.e. A Bm or urination. This awareness starts at about age 1 and until now (for the last 1-2 years), when you child has this feeling, he naturally goes ahead and eliminates in his diaper or pull ups. Now you want him to learn that when he has this feeling he has to stop and find his way to the potty. Then he has to remove his clothing and then sit or stand on the potty depending on which feeling he has and then eliminate.

So, from your child's perspective you are already request him to do a lot - and by trying to teach your child to stand while urinating and sit while having a bowel movement, you are request him to only learn and identify the feeling of fullness, but to differentiate the two feeling and make a decision to sit or stand.

Having said that, bowel movements commonly occur with urination, and if you child is sitting down to urinate, he may have a bowel movement at the same time and thus make the whole potty training process a lot easier.

Equipment Logistics and Clean Up Efforts. What will you use - a potty, a urinal or the toilet? Which one for which? A potty is probably too low to the ground to use for urination from the standing position. A urinal for pee and a potty for bowel movements? Maybe the toilet for both?

If you decide to use the toilet for both, you will need a step stool. You will also have to work out the details of the toilet seat & toilet seat reducer. (You may want to buy the reducer that attaches constantly to the toilet seat.) Do you teach him to remove the toilet seat reducer and lift the toilet seat? Or do you just leave them there because it is more convenient, but will be harder to clean?

Where will you do the potty training? Since the toddler is just learning, his aim will be off and initially he may also probably also dribble, so there is a good chance of over spray and mess. For this reason, if you may decide to teach your son to stand when urinating, you will want him to learn in the bathroom. Be prepared to do some extra cleaning in the bathroom and colse to the toilet bowel for a while until your toddler learns to aim.

Having said all this, by the age of two and half or three, children come to be interested in the concepts of gender and boys will begin to imitate their fathers or older brothers. So, you may find that your child wants to be like daddy or like his older brother and will insist that he urinate while standing and not sitting. If this is the case, then let him stand. It is not worth a power struggle. Work on teaching him to urinate first and then work on bowel movements.

Last, but not least, if your child is in day care, then make sure that you are potty training him the same way that they are. Some day cares insist on teaching boys to urinate standing and so make sure that both of you are teaching him the same thing!!

Potty Training Boys - How To Potty Train Boys - Do You Teach Them to Sit or Stand?